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This why I am reading a book till the movie version is already out.

the books are better than the movies most of the time either way so-

I prefer reading the books after the movie/show. I can't do it the other way around for some reason.

If you watch an adaptation first and then read the source material, it only tends to enrich it. If you do it the other way around, you're more likely to be disappointed. At least that's been my experience.

I'll second this, I saw Dune then immediately went out and grabbed a copy. Now I have a general flow of events and can even picture the actors in my head, which makes the book pretty easy to read. It's like an extended director's cut! Plus, I'm loving the book and can't wait for a second film adaptation.

That takes the imagination out of it. Sad

This is going to be my approach! Just watched the movie this weekend and it was amazing I’m looking forward to reading the book and I definitely appreciate going in with visuals of the world and characters.

Had the same experience with Gone Girl, enjoyed the movie then read the book and it was even better!

Ready player one is a good example. I watched the movie when it came out and loved it, and then I read the book and realized how much worse the movie was. Watched the movie again and I couldn’t really enjoy it

I agree, if you first read the source material you can only be disappointed by the way the material is portrayed in a movie. When you watch the movie first, the books only add more details and nuance to the story, and it is easier to imagine the world since you have already seen it.

I guess this degrades how the reader can imagine their "own" world when they read the book, but for casual reading having an idea of what the world looks like is only good.

Yeah, same. If you know all these details, of how the movie messed up the usually better book's story, then that will heavily detract from your enjoyment if the movies. Think: Percy Jackson, Harry Potter, and even Marvel. Then when you have enjoyed the movie(s), you can go back and learn all those fun facts/the lore, and just experience the books. The movies can also heavily help with providing a basis for visualisations as you read.

Even if there was no book that Percy Jackson movie was shit

The only thing about this for me is I always just end up imagining the actors that were in the movie if I’m reading a book version of something. Like Harry Potter I didn’t read till after the movies, every character in the book was just the movie versions to me.

i agree, unless the adaptation fucks up so hard it ruins the source material then watching the movie/show first is better

I just saw Dune in theaters a few weeks ago. Went out the next day to buy the book. Ifthe movie was that incredible I couldn’t imagine how good the book was.

If I read manga before I watch the anime, I lose interest very quickly in the show, so I always look to see if there’s an anime first. It helps with the internal voice acting while reading too.

If you only care about the story and all the details, sure. Movies are way better at providing enjoyment.

Not really, movies are literally made to provide more enjoyment than the books, you have real people acting, sound effects, voice, etc.

Wether you like one or the other better, applied to a certain work, is subjective yeah. But in theory, movies are made to be better, the problem is the execution.

Not really

You're trying to say enjoyment is not subjective bro? Lol

Also, movies might have all the acting and so on but reading books has unlimited imagination. That's the draw

I kind of agree with him, I prefer action scenes on a screen compared to a book, especially if they're animated.

depends on the writer, some writers can make fight scenes way more interesting than the movie versions

I've got a shit imagination though

Where did i say that? lmao, why do we have movies then? or theatre? it's literally to bring a book to real life in an attempt to make it better. I didn't say you couldn't like one or the other more.

Lol "where did I say that"

When your reply to the comment "Very subjective" started with "Not really" implying that it wasn't subjective at all.

Movies are different. Not 'better'. If they were strictly 'better' why bother writing books when we have movies? Why bother with radio after we got the tv? Why ride a bike when we have cars? Because they provide different things for different people and enjoyment is subjective.

I said "not really" to it being subjective that movies are made to provide more enjoyment, which i explained afterwards, not in regards to someone liking one or the other more.

And the comparisons you made, the main reason is money. But you make a good point, i didn't really think about it from that perspective, even though i can't see how having acting, sound and all that isn't a clear upgrade to someone. Sure, you can imagine everything in a book and it will fit exactly your expectations, no movie can do that, there will always be differences, that's why people tend to like the book more. But that came from the reader filling that gap that movies provide.

I guess in the end that is subjective too though, you're right. Maybe i was just too fed up with people constantly saying "the book is better" to literally everything that i formed the exact opposite opinion.

The only way they can make movies to provide more enjoyment, is if the enjoyment received is objective. Because enjoyment is subjective. It's subjective that movies are made for more enjoyment. It's a possibility that people write books about movies for more enjoyment, take starters good movies, then people wrote tons of books for "more enjoyment" of having a detailed universe.... After reading your other comments it seems you understand this now.

I see where your coming from but still disagree. When you add sound and visuals and acting you often also make cuts to the story. For example LOTR is like a 9-11 hours for all the movies, the audio books are like 16 hours for 48 hours of total story.

A story that takes 48 hours to tell is going to be alot more detailed and thus 'enjoyable' to some than a 11 hour film.

Yeah it's a tradeoff between a more detailed story and a more "real" approach i guess.

To me, having actors, voice and sound compensates the story details lost (to a certain degree, not like cutting or completely changing whole parts of the story) because it adds more emotion, and you can visually see what is happening, making it easier to be immersed in the story. Usually action scenes tend to be better imo, because a lot of the times it's hard to imagine them in books, take huge wars for example.

But a lot of the times if i like the movie or series a lot, i do like to search for more details about the story, though i see it as a complement to the movie.

I think you're just proving how subjective it is. When I read a book I hear different voices for the characters, depending on how good the writing is, visualization is no issue for me.

Maybe you're just more visual than imaginative and thus movies are better entertainment for you personally. But again it's subjective a good movie is probably better than a bad book but a good book better than a bad movie no one form is better than the other objectively. They didn't make movies to be better than books, it just came after books because technology came about in that order. Newer doesn't mean better.

Yeah, i agree with that. Good discussion btw, when i had this conversation before, people just went full toxic, i guess that contributed to me even defending my opinion more. But you helped me seeing it from another point of view, thanks.

That’s literally exactly what you said though? You said movies are better at providing enjoyment, and he responded with ”very subjective” and you said ”not really”. You literally said that enjoyment isn’t subjective?

would you also argue that watching a music video is better than just listening to it? Do pictures in a book make it better? What about audio books? What is it exactly that movies add that will always improve a story's quality according to you?

I would say those are all improvements, yes. They add emotions though audio and facial expressions and visual representations of what's actually happening. You can imagine things differently in books most of the time, and that doesn't always translate to what the author wanted to convey, but you still imagine it in the best way possible for you. The movie is more objective in that part because in theory (not always unfortunately), it gives you a representation of what the author intended.

Also, i realise now that i made my opinion into a fact in my previous comments.

"For me."

Here, you dropped that.

Even if he said that people would still downvote him for some reason.

well, the guy above didn't really seem to add that either, did he?

He put in "most of the time". That does not sound like an absolute statement at least. And more people out there are the opinion that the book is better than the movie.

Claiming that movies are better for enjoyment (an absolute statement) is just a really strong and bold claim.

Yes but that is still an opinion, despite being the most common one or not. But yeah i did realise afterwards that i turned my opinion, which i explained after, into a fact.

Just a little correction there you cannot turn setting into a "fact", it is or it is not.

It is rather you claimed your opinion would be a fact.

Just saying that since too many people do not understand the word "fact" anymore, sadly.

Yeah it's more like in my head it was a fact because i couldn't see it being any other way.

find something that interests you

maybe read a visual novel? since those are pretty much just books but with choices, pictures, music, sound effects, sometimes voice acting they can work as a gateway into normal books

Oh really, name every book then!

Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone

Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban

Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
/s

Damn you really covered them all, nice job!

Honestly, I wish I could enjoy books the same way some people do. My visualization skills kinda suck, so most books tend to simply feel like words on a paper rather than an experience. Manga, comics, and visual novels are a great fix for that though

honestly same

also have you read higurashi-

Starship troopers being the one major exception, Verhoven literally made fun of that dumbasses book in movie form.

I'm 29 and have read only 1 book in my life (20-30 page book as a kid). I wish i could read book, i just can't!. I read like 5-10 pages and remember absolutely nothing. I get distracted by random stuff and keep forgetting that i need to read not think about how long it takes for banana to grow n shit.

If i can't visualize what i'm reading or sometimes even hearing then i just can't understand it and i fuckin hate it!

Me rushing to finish the first 3 books of wheel of time before the show finishes airing

This happens to me way too often. Even in conversations.

I read ur comment twice.

your… you’re… ur.

I read ur comment thrice.

Damnit i did it again

Being severely distracted while having a conversation could be a sign of ADD/ADHD/OCD.

OCD? Never heard about that side effect before.

It's hard to focus on the things the person in front of you is saying when you're focused on counting every tile in the room.

Damn, sounds like me.

Guy: Talking to me

Me in my head: I wonder I’m having for dinner. Is my fly zipped up? I wonder what’s the difference between seltzer water and club soda is..

Wikipedia seems to say that, in the US, 'seltzer water' commonly refers to any kind of carbonated water, but that actual seltzer water is a kind of club soda.

I don't actually give a fuck about that. I don't like sparkly water and didn't even know either of these words. But I've lost control of my life years ago, so there you go.

I heard an interesting use for carbonated water/seltzer water is for after a good long run or some other activity that leaves you with that dry mouth feeling or like you have phlegm in your throat. Apparently it helps to get rid of that feeling pretty quickly while also not making you feel ill like chugging a soda tends to do after a lot of exertion.

As someone who also doesn’t care for sparkly water, I stock it only for that use and it’s great in that regard.

That makes sense. I know from my mom that carbonated drinks help when you're feeling nauseous or bloated (we usually drink lemonade for that) so I guess it's kinda similar?

Still not too keen about drinking something that literally tastes like fart, but it's good to know.

Fair point! I go for the flavored 0 sugar ones. Makes the farts imperceivable haha. I like using gingerale for upset stomachs as well.

Hope you take care!

Finally someone gets it. I like it because it feels like it cleans your throat on the way down. Hahah. Every time I tell someone that they’re like wtf.

Person: Talking to me

Me: Elevator music

i dont think i have OCD but i do have moderate germaphobia and intrusive thoughts that wont go away. does anyone know what would cause chronic intrudive thoughts? its not that theyre constant 24/7, its that theyve been here for years. everytime i am remined of specific things, intrusive thiughts come out if the woodwork and there is nothing ive done that helps. the whole ”let them be and dont pay attention them” thing doesnt work because i cant help but recoil. i dont know how im supposed to not recoil.

i remember as a kid i had something similar to intrusive thoughts but only when i was imagining. e.g. a character in my daydream would have a drink in their hands and theyd drop it on the floor out of nowhere. and id try to rewind and put it back in their hand but the more i tried the more they dropped it. until eventually they were literally throwing it on thr floor and repeating over and over. this symptom disappeared when i fot older but i wonder if its related?

As should be the answer to any of the questions in this thread, ask a psychiatrist or other mental health professional about it. Random goobers on Reddit are rarely qualified to give accurate information.

yeah ur right. i just cant get to a professional yet

Hey that's fine, it's like that sometimes. Make sure to double check any possible avenues things like your school, job, or insurance might give you to see one and if not, there are some online resources. Good luck!

Yeah i have severe ocd myself i find that i daily think about random shit/obssesions while in a conversation.

Are you clinically diagnosed with ocd?

Aight, that's cool, me too

Actually no I dont I have something else lol.

I'm not an expert on this stuff, but from my personal research it seems that ADHD, OCD, anxiety disorders, and depression share a lot of symptoms. There might be some kind of more fundamental difference between them from a brain chemistry perspective or something, but it seems to me that functionally the difference is mostly in the relative magnitude of each of the symptoms and how they impact your life.

It could also be really bad anxiety. When I get really anxious, I can’t remember anything and I will hear people tell me things and immediately forget to a point where people think I’m stupid. Once I’m past the hill of hanging out with somebody a few times or being at a job a few months, it goes away and I’m normal if not pretty good at a lot of things, including listening and remembering things people talk to me about. If anyone reading this has this issue, I hope you can afford to see a therapist. You are not stupid.

I not stupid I'm just poor

I relate to this :( it's not fun at my retail job

What’s the difference between just getting distracted and actually having adhd/ocd etc?

If you have ADHD, it's more than just getting distracted. You have to try really, really hard to remain present and focused on the conversation or the task at hand. Your inability to do so negatively impacts your ability to work or study, your relationships, and your ability to do what you need to do on a daily basis. You are trying so hard to focus to the point where you are literally in tears because you're so frustrated that your brain just won't do what you want it to do and you don't know why and it's not like it's difficult, so why is this something I am having such a hard time with?

Everyone's experience is different, of course, but if the above sounds relatable then you might have ADHD. Before I got diagnosed I did a lot of reading on r/ADHD, and I was surprised by all of the posts and comments that felt like I could have written them myself.

I'm diagnosed with adhd or add I don't seem to have much a problem with it though in my opinion; but i guess i wouldn't know because I always had it; and I wouldn't have anything to compare it to.

now i think i have adhd lol

i cant tell if im being ridiculous or not

I felt that way too before I got diagnosed, like I must have been making it up and I'm just being dramatic. Yeah everything I'm reading about it might be very relatable, but there's no way I have ADHD, I'm just lazy. This is a very common mindset to have.

There's no shame in looking into it more to see if it checks out. I'd recommend looking through r/ADHD, and maybe watching some videos from the YouTube channel How to ADHD. It can be very eye opening. There are many, many people who aren't diagnosed until later in life, later into adulthood. Just because it wasn't diagnosed when you were a child doesn't mean you can't have it.

im 16 actually, thanks a ton though for the references might actually help me

youre a legend

I'm glad I could help! My journey to getting my diagnosis was very personal and informative, and getting the diagnosis itself was life changing. I love to help and offer direction to others when I can.

I also just wanted to mention, so, so many people get caught up on the medication aspect of ADHD, and while I think medication is a great tool and has helped me tremendously, you don't have to take it. Getting informed and looking into getting a diagnosis is so incredibly worth it even if you don't want to take medication. Just knowing is very valuable. Good luck!

The obssesive thoughts to are what drives ocd, and Leads to compultions. Sometimes I can think of the same obsessive thought for days.. which then gives you anxiety, not the thought but the fact that you can't get the obsessive thought to go away. It can literally end up being the only thing you can think of. I can't comment on the add/ADHD because I don't have it.

As with any mental disorder, the symptoms must be severe enough to cause unusual disruption in multiple areas of your life.

Hi! ADD actually doesn't exist anymore according to the DSM-5. It's been categorized as ADHD!

Referred to as ADHD inattentive

Yeah. But try seeing a doctor in the US without insurance... It's expensive, trust me. :/

Oh yeah im pretty sure i have some kind of ADD

Does that get worse with age?

Should get Better. Age seems to take the Edge of mental illness. That and you get Better at living with the disability .

Okay what if this regularly happens to me but when I try to understand consciously I can get what they're saying.

Still applicable. ADHD has an inattentive presentation, zoning out is very common.

Oof i knew there was something wrong with my mind Zone outs, constantly tired , cwnt focus for too long forgeting what i was saying

Sounds relatable. Visit us at r/ADHD and lurk for a bit! Before I got diagnosed, reading posts and comments over there really helped me come to terms with how I might have it. Very validating and relatable, and I learned aspects about ADHD that I never realized were applicable to me. Also, you can check out How to ADHD on YouTube. Even if you don't have it, her videos are a very good resource for understanding how it can affect people.

I mean i dont really feel like its a bad thing Idk why

That's okay! Being educated about it doesn't mean that you do think it's a bad thing. It also doesn't mean you need to seek a diagnosis or take medication. Sometimes just learning about it and feeling validated is a good feeling. Reading and learning more about ADHD doesn't mean you need to do anything with that knowledge, or start trying to see a doctor for it. It doesn't have to be a Big Thing, it's just reading stuff on the internet. Whatever you decide to do is the right choice for you, there isn't a wrong answer here and you should do whatever you're comfortable with.

Or it could be that we are just fucking dumb

Man I really need to get checked

Yeah ADHD is annoying in stuff like this you cant concentrate that well even if ur girlfriend is telling you something Now that Im thinking about it, I wouldnt listen to her regardless

I have severe chronic OCD and have never once heard of this from my psychiatrist or any doctor I've spoken to about it. It's fairly par for the course with ADHD, but I wouldn't lump in a hardwired anxiety disorder with an attention disorder, even though it's not uncommon for people with OCD to also have some form of ADHD diagnosis. They're very different in symptoms, treatment, and severity.

May have ADHD, for real.

Edit: crap I just saw someone tell you the same thing but I'll keep this here anyway.

For me it's especially in conversations

Uh, sorry, doze off. Can you say that one more time?

My brain went to commercials

Every waking fucking moment

Me too. It feels like I lost my mind for a few seconds. I think it’s related to using smartphone too much. cuz it hadn’t happened to me before using smartphone.

I don't know why I hadn't made that connection but I think your onto something. It could very well be a direct result of our use of smartphones / internet

Same, and it’s worse because you can’t go back and re-read it.

This happens when I watch movies sometimes, so I put the subtitles on 😂

Dude same this happens to me constantly.

I remember when I had school and had to read about things that didn't matter to me. Glad to be outta that Low Class Jail lol.

Please don't call on me. Please don't call on me. Please don't call on me.

It’s happening now.

You're telling me... and I'm in sales, shit goes in one ear and out

"I heard but I didn't listen."

i often forget the first sentence while reading the second one.

Ah, that just means you're human

Some people get this to a degree where they can’t hold down a job or keep up relationships. Being human means you can have a disorder like anxiety or ADHD and it can ruin your life. The good thing is this can often be helped. Brushing off real problems people face above and beyond the norm discourages people from seeking help. The first step is realizing you’re not just defective, you have a problem you can fix.

Everyone wants to think they’re unique

I ask a question and forget to listen to the answer

Same. Sometimes I have to force myself into really hearing what other person is saying in order to understand it correctly. That doesn't even mean that I'll stay that way the entire conversation. My 'understanding time' can drop off any time, even in the middle of a conversation and it's as if I just go blank out of nowhere.

The thing is I actually don't know when this started. It wasn't always like this, that's for sure, but it does happen way too frequently now.

There is the other side of this when you read a few lines, realize you don't understand it, try to read it again, and only then you realize it's not in English.

Omg I was watching a review of Forest Gump and it took me 5 minutes before I realized it wasn't in english

La vie, c'est comme une boîte de chocolat.

Though, and the time it took me to go to google translate to get that piece of French, I had time to think, “why is he only just now, after all these years, watching a review Forrest Gump?”

I can tell what that says just because of chocolat.

Uhh school mandatory movie watch thing

Using the knowledge acquired in my first year French class, I can confidently declare that you are saying you want to skydive or something like that.

In all seriousness though, what is “vie” and “boîte”?

Life is like a chocolat boîte

I don't know what boîte is.

Boite is french for box

Life is like a chocolate box

"de" means of, so it's "Life is like a box of chocolate"

I speak french and this is how I would translate it to english

I learned a lot of French in my first year of French in high school. I forgot a lot of French in French II. I hated my French I teacher, but dammit, that woman made me learn some French whether I liked it or not. My French II teacher was horrible.

la vie était comme une boîte de chocolat

Life was like a box of chocolate.

This is like a "Luke I am your father" situation where society has collectively remembered the wrong version of the quote

Dis so vreemd, is mense nie simpel wesens nie

This looks like Afrikaans to my Dutch eyes but i could be very wrong.

It is, but pretend that it's Dutch just to make it more confusing. Also I couldn't come up with anything decent to say with my vrot Afrikaans, so I cheated and used Google translate.

Google translate is mos dan 100% korrek. Lekker.

I bet its Afrikaans is much more delicious than mine. Haha

Here is a fun sentence that you can read in Afrikaans and English: "My pen is in my hand, my hand is in water."

Theres a ton of those between Dutch and English, its pretty interesting.

It's a contraction I think. Dis is used pretty regularly in general sentences.

In real German you say das ist

Why is that movie mentioned a gazillion times on reddit? There can not be any relevance to the movie and it will still be mentioned. What makes it so that it stays in peoples head all the time?

I just thought of it lol, would you like a less famous one? How about Mother! , Or maybe I am mother, perhaps Mother?

I'm trolling a bit but there are legitimately three different movies called: "Mother!"; "I Am Mother"; "Mother"

The first and third only have a ! dfference in the name. All of them good movies imo

Thank you for trolling. But how does that answer my question?

It doesn't but i guess it's kind of an iconic movie, and a rather neat one. Pop culture?

Honestly wouldn’t doubt it. #1 keyword on site lol.

“This guy must be really smart, he’s using a lot of big words!” speaking Bulgarian

You smoke too much, Pip.

Watching Tech reviews from other countries always gets me, since when the product name is in English, it takes a few sentences to tell if something is spoken with a thick accent or another language.

I have the same thing happen loads as a German. Most of the content I consume is English, most scientific texts or guides are too.

When I then read a book or guide in German I sometimes don't realise it's in German until I consciously look at it.

Wondering why photoshop doesn't have that weird button for example.

Something similar happened to me with a TV show as a German living the USA for the last 2 decades. I started watching the TV show and subtitles were on the screen. I tried to turn them off but they were already off in the settings. Then after a minute or two, I noticed that they were talking German and the reason for the subtitles was for English speakers to understand the foreign language in the first 2-3 minutes of the TV show. I didn't even notice that they were not speaking English.

Yes, you’ve read several lines written a foreign language multiple times and then suddenly realized that it’s not a language you understand.

That most definitely has happened.

Haha, I had something similar happening while I was watching a documentary on Youtube a couple of years ago. It took me ten minutes to realise that the documentary was in French. I do not speak French at all. I was pretty high at the time though, so that might explain it.

What do you mean there are other languages besides English?

Then there is the other side of the other side you have an exercise where you need to correct spelling of a story and you are so concentrated on the story that you just forget what you need to do

Dude wtf, same. I just get the feeling

My first language is French but I'm fluent in English. Sometimes, I surprise myself by reading through a whole article for school and realize only afterwards. "Well, this was in English"

This happens to me late at night when I come across an r/ich_iel post.

How would it not being in English make me not understand it?

I think the implication is that it’s in a language that the OP does not understand.

Yeah, but he must speak atleast one different language, right?

US-Americans only speak English

If anyone has a fix for this glitch pls lemme know how to patch it…tired of it

That will only lead to more issues 🥲

Only if you don't actually have ADHD

Lies…. maybe I just need more tho 😂🤔

If I read it out loud I start focusing over how I'm reading out loud and my inflection (as if I was reading to a class for some reason) and such and I end up right back at the start

this is so relatable that it hurts

I’ve probably lost so many points off of exams because of this

This seriously happens too often

Why do they purposely misspell their videos?

My guess is that if something is misspelled it causes more people to correct that spelling and that counts as more engagement.

Hadn't thought of that. Yay capitalism

Edit: I guess y'all are too young to recognize an Austin Powers quote so I'll link it here

Why is this poor soul getting downvoted? No humor here I swear

Capitalism is when spelling (i don't know how to spell)

14 year old discovers the word capitalism

Clearly that's nepotism, not capitalism.

This is a weird comment. "Your" is one of the most commonly misspelled words in the internet. Why are you assuming they're doing it purposely? Is there something im missing?

Where can I buy said gorillas?

I think that’s the joke.

Tbf tho my joke wasnt exactly the same joke as his. It was adding on to it.

Guerilla, not gorilla.

They sad gorrila, not gorilla you dumb

Guerrilla*

And i think it’s more likely they’re just idiots

You just proved his point.

I think he proved mine

Yes, but thats a piece of info you wouldn't know unless, well, you knew about it. To ask the question in the first and get this answer is pretty weird. Its definitely not widespread enough or unique enough to get you questioning. I guess the guy who asked hasn't seen enough people misspelling "your" to know its normal

What

Not only did I actually not know the thing you commented before I asked that, its also irrelevant. I was asking if there was something that told them they were doing it purposely.

seeing as this is a tiktok, i doubt they purposely misspell words.

Just use reddit as an example. Happens all the time. So why not do it on purpose? Engagement is the metric they are farming.

misspelling is funny

I highly doubt thats purposeful, they're probably just being lazy. You're is like, 2 orn3 extra key strokes. I also doubt you haven't, at some point, misspelled something out of laziness and not caring about being right. Only difference is, its not on a video for soemone else to point it out.

Your reading. Ironic.

Brain.exe has encountered a fatal error, please retry

You have ADHD, don't you

Does everyone have ADHD these days?? My sister self diagnosed and has insisted that I have a lot of the symptoms too. I read through the list, and I feel like these are just me and not some condition. I’m a night owl who can “hyper focus” on tasks for a long time. I have no issue reading, but if it’s a long drawn out study article, I’ll skim to the necessary bits

ADHD, like depression or anxiety, is a an issue of degrees. Does everyone get sad for a variety of reasons? Yes. Does everyone get nervous in unfamiliar situations? Yes. Does everyone get bored when doing mundane things that don’t interest them? Yes.

The difference is in how much struggle there’s involved in getting past the symptoms and how much they affect your day to day life.

Which is why self-diagnosis isn’t fool-proof. Everyone experiences the symptoms of ADHD. Just the people with it struggle with the dysfunction disproportionately impacting their lives.

Which, also, makes it hard to realize that you might have it. I struggled for years wondering if I’m just lazier than the average person. My entire school career was a consistent pattern of teachers telling me “I know you know this material — why am I giving you this bad of a grade?”.

Eventually after many posts like this I started suspecting and went to get tested and got a professional diagnosis. Which is why I don’t begrudge all these posts going “Omg you might have ADHD!!”

How exactly does adhd make a person lazy? Asking as a fellow lazier than average person

The short answer is for years I mistakenly interpreted my struggles with getting schoolwork, errands, and various other tasks done ahead of/on time as me “just being lazy”.

When in reality my brain’s reward pathways are messed up. It meant unless something needed to be completed within the next 5 minutes, the reward chemicals that make you do something ahead of time just weren’t flowing or present in my system.

Instead I had to rely on stress and anxiety to drive being productive. Which then only further made me unwilling to deal with school or other tasks as it was only ever associated with stress in my mind. It’s a vicious negative reinforcement cycle.

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