## [t3_bwjh1k](https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/bwjh1k/is_it_normal_to_both_want_to_be_alone_and_have_a/)
I'm not sure how to explain this well. For one thing, I am mainly an introvert and I LOVE living alone. I get to come home from work, strip down to my underwear, play guitar wherever I want in the apartment, say stupid shit to myself, etc. On the other hand, I sometimes start getting lonely and sort of wish I had more friends and a more active social life. It's almost like I want good friends and a girlfriend that ONLY want to hang out on the weekends, but also are very good friends to me. Is anyone like this? And if so, how have you managed to balance this?

Edit: Thank you everyone for responding. I can't get around to responding to everyone, but I would like to let you all know that I very much appreciate you guys sharing your personal thoughts on the matter, as it makes me feel that I am not alone on this issue. 

I would like to add another detail about my situation. There's also the fact that I have severe insomnia and I toss and turn in my sleep constantly, which makes it near impossible to be able to actually sleep in a bed with another person. I felt insanely uncomfortable with my last girlfriend for this very reason. Normally, I would toss and turn a bunch and if I couldn't sleep I would sometimes just get out of bed at like 4 or 5 a.m and start pacing around, play guitar, or just watch TV. I find that this would be nearly impossible if there was someone else here with me.

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