## [t3_bk3zko](https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/bk3zko/how_does_anybody_have_any_time_to_live_if_they/)
I’m in community college for my bachelors and working 5 days a week at a minimum wage job. I constantly have to tell people I’m too busy. Too busy to come to their houses for GOT, too busy to visit with my grandma. I’m too busy to go to my boyfriends parents house and have dinner. You get the idea. 

Basically I’m either: 
- getting ready for work (shower+makeup+outfit+driving there=2 hours prior to my shift)

- at work

- at home after work eating/sleeping/shitting 

- at school (the two days I have as a “weekend” are the two days I go to school) 

- studying 

- doing laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, getting gas, etc 

What I don’t get is, how are adults who work full time able to have full on lives with unique hobbies when I can’t even find time to visit my grandma for a day? I feel like it’s just a given in the US that everyone is gritty enough to work 40 hours AND clean the house AND have a social life AND have a bunch of side hobbies that dictate your personality. Nobody ever questions it. 

Even people who don’t go to school, it’s like you only have 48 hours each week (Saturday and Sunday) to actually do what you want, and most people need time to clean and to relax and recharge before working the next week, right? Does everybody just go, go, go, go, all the time, never stopping to breathe? 

I thought I would have more freedom and downtime as an adult...

Edit: thank you kind anon for the silver🙏🏽

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